If you’ve read my previous blog posts, you already know how to (and hopefully have) made some commitments to yourself this year and used my “Super-Secret Four-Step Process for Setting Awesome Goals” to put yourself on the path to honoring those commitments. If you’ve been following along and checked off those boxes already, congratulations, you’ve completed the EASY part. The next part is where it gets tricky.
Why? Because motivation is a fickle business, waxing and waning with every passing day. Some days you’ve got so much of it that it’s oozing out of our ears (yeah, you should have that looked at) and the next day…not so much. If you read my previous posts and found yourself bored or lost or saying “get to the good stuff, Coach”, I want you to listen up very carefully to what I’m about to say. This is very important.
You have to lay the foundation first; motivation doesn’t just happen.
I remember sitting on my couch (probably eating ice cream…or nachos…) waiting for motivation to fall out of the sky and hit me, like waiting for lightning to strike or the stack of papers on my desk to spontaneously combust. I said things like “I know I should [blank] but I just don’t have the motivation.” I assumed I simply wasn’t ready to change my life and be happy and healthy. Did you hear what I just said?!?! Not ready to be happy and healthy- reads an awful lot like “I don’t think I deserve better” and/or “I don’t even know where to start” (hence my earlier posts).
You have to begin at the beginning, with commitments to honor the most important and deserving person in your life (that would be you, silly), a clearer picture of what that really looks like, and a more realistic plan for how to get it done. Once you’ve walked through all that, you’ll be ready to proceed to the real work of making the magic happen. Think about it. If it were easy to just be motivated and stay that way, you wouldn’t still be reading this post, would you? And it’s not lack of information either because I promise you that if you Google “fitness” and “motivation”, you’ll find yourself buried under a mountain of articles that provide helpful shortcuts and tips on staying motivated.
It’s tough to find a reason to get out from under those nice warm covers that you’ve so skillfully used to turn yourself into a human burrito when it’s cold, rainy, snowy, or foggy outside- heck, to be completely honest, I have trouble sometimes even when it’s sunny outside. It all boils down to this- I had no trouble getting out of bed when my reasons for getting up to work out outweighed my reasons for wanting to remain a human burrito.
So I assure you that there truly is a method to my apparent madness. If you want to stay in this vicious cycle of setting goals and letting yourself down, by all means carry on building your house of cards. Don’t let me stop you. But if you’re really ready to make this time be different, you have to start by laying the foundation to support a structure that can withstand all that life will inevitably throw at you.
If you are ready, REALLY ready, I’ll share with you the useful tidbits I’ve gathered both from my own struggles with motivation over the years and my observations of the struggles of those that I’ve coached. But there is one condition to me sharing this treasure trove of knowledge with you: you’ve got to promise to have the foundation in place first!
Now go reread my previous posts and meet me back here in a week…(who doesn’t love a cliffhanger!)